Friendship
Friday July 29, 2005
I woke up with a headache and took Ibuprofen right away. (Faol has commented that I take too much Ibuprofen. I wish I had something else that would work for pain and as an anti-inflammatory.) I did my meditation then slept a little, which helped the headache. After a shower, I called Faol as I was planning on running off to visit with Renee and didn’t want to miss my time with him.
I had a great time catching up with Renee. We ate grapes and chatted about a variety of things from relationships to her recovery from surgery to gardening, to sex… This is one of the very few relationships that I have where we can get out of contact, forget to email, not talk on the phone for months, and still have a sense of connection, caring, and deep affection when we do finally reconnect. Most of the time I really do need to be in touch on a frequent basis to retain a sense of being close to someone. I don't stop caring about friends that I don't see often but the sense that we are close friends fades into something more akin to close acquaintances. To really feel intimate with someone I need to have weekly, even daily contact, if not in person then by email frequently and phone often to compensate for not seeing them.
When I returned home I wanted to share my happy mood with Faol but had to stop and tell Tom all about the barn brownies that had cleaned up the piles of dead Asian beetles, spiderwebs, and dirt, then hung the tools and torches and generally straightened up a major section. He was just getting out of the shower. What a nice home coming sight!
After I got home I worked on coding and uploading my journal. Tom made us
drinks after dinner and we watched, Dangerous
Beauty.
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