We had a wonderful discussion about community and our ideals for extended family living together. M. kept us on topic and asked good questions to keep it all flowing. She also took notes on what we thought we wanted as an ideal. When there was conflict on lifestyle - sloppy vs neat, cluttered vs picked up and put away - she suggested ways that all could have their way. F. was very good at that as well. Together they really make me feel that this is something we can do. Tom was really getting into the discussion even using the pronoun we, what we could do, should do, etc. However, when that was pointed out to him he backpedaled quickly and said he was just getting caught up in the discussion but wasn't really interested in doing anything.
M. was really feeling poorly so we decided to take her to an immediate care facility to see if they could give her some medication. We all drove into Madison and waited with her. She and I continued to discuss community issues, family, and our loves while we waited. It made the time pass quickly. F. slept in the chair on and off. It is quite amazing to me that he can do that. I have a hard time dropping off to sleep anywhere but my own bed. It always takes me a day or two to adjust and sleep in a strange place so falling to sleep sitting up in a public place seems like a miracle to me.
After she got medication F. offered to take us to dinner. We went to the Imperial Gardens. It was quite acceptable and we all shared our orders. I like doing it kind of family style and enjoying the variety of flavors. It also makes a meal at a public restaurant a little more intimate for me. We just seemed to have a good time no matter what we were doing. In the evening we had a couple of drinks and actually made it past midnight before crashing.
M. decided to sleep in the living room where it was warmer. F. moved to the children's bed so it was more comfortable cuddling with him. We talked for a while then I went back to my bed.
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