Well I didn't keep up with my journal at all while I was gone and have been trying to recreate the days but frankly the last entry is the last day that I knew for sure what happened on any specific day. M. flew in and we went to meet her at the airport. It was so good to see her. During the several days that she was there we worked on the room (they painted it and moved some drywall), and did some cleaning of the house. She tackled the refrigerator and got about half of it done, old food thrown out, condiments checked for expiration dates and eliminated, and some of the shelves wiped clean. She is far braver than I am :) She and I did laundry one day, a huge mountain of laundry it seemed to me. We got a dry cleaning kit that could be done in the dryer and used it on some of the clothes too. It was fun to work on the household chores with her and gave me a taste of what it might be like to live together, something that I hope we will really do with the co-housing situation.
And the three of us seem great together. We love sharing each other, seeing the pleasure of any two of us interacting, enjoying the three of us interacting, going to the movies together, or eating out, or just hanging out. It was great fun. M. and I curled up on either end of the sofa with feet and legs meeting and chatted for hours before going to bed after F. went to work. We even had a kind of family meeting that was difficult with painful things said and areas needing to be worked out. And we continued to work on them after she left through email and the phone. Being able to do this, to work issues out, is as important or more so than just having fun together.
After she left we went back to working on things around the house as much as we could but we also played, went to parties at the Gemini Manor, went to a Munch, made some new friends together and were invited to dinner by one. I went to the Gay Pride Parade with a new friend and visited The Palms, a Lesbian bar with her and some of her friends. I had a great time. It was really nice to make some new friends out there something I have not really done much in all these visits.
We went to see three movies, one of them with M. Let's see, we saw Salton Sea, which I thought was very interesting, kind of depressing in some ways but well done; Spider Man, which I thought was great fun. I loved the scenes of him swinging through the city on his spider silk, and crawling up the buildings. We also saw Lilo and Stitch, which I wasn't so sure about at first but turned out to be quite amusing, even heart-warming, only a little preachy, and just good fun. And as usual we also went out to eat at various places often. I am always torn by it though as I hate to have him spending so much money on it and yet I really do love to go to the Thai restaurant, or out for sushi, or the Ethiopian restaurant, etc. He takes me places and sees that I am entertained well and I feel cared for. I don't know if it is shallow of me to enjoy it so much or whether it is a function of not being able to afford it here. Tom and I have just never had the luxury of that much spare money that we felt we could spend it on that kind of entertainment.
F. and I went to the Gemini Manor South Seas party bash. He dressed me in sarongs and a straw hat and wore sarongs himself as well. It was fun. I hung out with one of his friends who was there with a new guy. They were quite entertaining. F. hooked up with a new woman and I spent more of the party giving him space to pursue and develop a relationship than I do when that isn't so. I didn't mind as I had someone else I knew to hang out with for most of it. Periodically I would go and track him down, say hi, let him know that I was fine, and head off for my own entertainment again. There were Hawaiian style dancers, fire dancers, lots of music, a buffet table, and drinks. I have a good time at these parties. We also went to the regular Salon on a Sunday evening with M. She was the hit of the party of course. And we listened to the music and hung out with the musicians for most of the party. She even sang a little. With her lovely voice that was a delight.
I also had time to finish the 3rd piece of my 4 piece series of pastel drawings. And F. found me a cardboard tube to use to transport that one and the first one that I did at his place back here. So now we have to figure out what to do about matting them and displaying them. But I feel like I have accomplished something by actually completing them all. And I started another one while I was there. I am doing one of Kali, now. I brought it home with me so I could continue to work on it here.
All in all this was a very interesting visit. I had fun, parties, entertainment, worked on his house, did every day chores, got to grow closer with M., and F. and I had some relationship talks and cleared up some issues between us as well. I already miss him.
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